Spoiler Alert 

My husband, Patrick, and I have always had a love of movies. We have spent a lot of date nights at the movie theater or just cuddled up on the sofa watching the latest release. Obviously, over this last year we have been a little preoccupied with our rainbow and we have only manged to make it to two movies (Madeline in tow). So, we have been catching up on what we’ve missed by making good use of Redbox.

In doing so, we have noticed something. There are a lot of movies that deal with losing a child.

There of course are the obvious ones, The Lovely Bones, Bridge to Terabithia, What Dreams May Come, Return to Zero, etc. Those are easy to avoid if you are feeling vulnerable. Ask me about the time I watched What Dreams May Come just a couple months after losing Joshua. Not a goood idea.

The problem is those movies where it sneaks up on you. Ever watch Up? I watch it and all I can do is sob thinking of poor Ellie and Carl. In fairness, Up is probably one of the saddest Disney movies I’ve ever seen anyway, but that scene in the hospital. My heart breaks for that poor animated couple.

Patrick does a good job of trying to “protect” me from watching movies where losing a child is part of the story line. He makes use of the parent’s guides to help make sure that there is nothing that will leave me crying and unable to watch the movie. However, we have noticed that this is getting trickier. It seems that the death of a child is not often mentioned in these parent guides. The last two movies we have watched were Interstellar and The Best of Me. Guess what? Both movies have parents dealing with the loss of a child.

So, this left me searching for a list a movies that deal with/mention loss to help from being completely sideswiped again. I found a list at: http://survivingmiscarriages.blogspot.com, but it hasn’t been updated in a while and I knew of several that I thought should be added. So I emailed her, and with her permission, I have included her original list and added many that I have found.

If you know of any others that should be added, please let me know.

Many of these are amazing movies, but they are a little less amazing when you aren’t expecting to hear about someone losing a baby and it hits you like a train. I’m hoping that this list can help those who are grieving protect their hearts a little bit more.

13 Reasons Why (teenage suicide)
21 Grams
Amish grace (children killed by gun man in a one room school house)
Birthday Girl (still birth)
Bridge to Teribithia (death of a child)
Charlie St. Cloud
Children of Men (miscarriage)
Cider House Rules (the entire movie is about a doctor who performs abortions)
City of Angels
Collateral Beauty
Country Strong (baby loss as big theme in movie)
Criminal Law (self abortion)
Dear Zachery (documentary – very upsetting)
Dirty Dancing (abortion)
Dolly Parton’s Coat of Many Colors
Dr quinn medicine woman – TV Show – (towards thé end of the series she has a unmentioned miscarriage)
Finding Nemo
For Colored Girls (MANY difficult situations in this movie)
Fullmetal Alchemist (anime series – infant loss as major theme from middle to end of series)
Glee (Season 5, episode 3 – after the real life death of one of the actors, his charactor is mourned and there is a gut-wrenching scene with his on-screen mom that for every cheesy moment on this show aside the writers nailed 110%)
Grace – (stillbirth do not watch child comes back to “life” horror movie)
Grey’s Anatomy (obvious reasons – and there are several episodes that deal with pregnancy, infant, and child loss)
Home Room (child dies after birth – not sure of reason)
House of Sand and Fog
How I Met Your Mother (infertility)
If these walls could talk (pretty much a glorification of abortion)
In America
Interstellar (stillbirth)
Julie & Julia (not mentioned but the emotion is there)
Juno (she goes to an abortion clinic but does not follow through-gives baby up for adoption but the baby is the theme of the movie!)
Letters to God (child dies of cancer)
Little House on the Prarie (Ma in the first season and Mary in another season)
Love and other impossible pursuits (whole movie is about a woman grieving the loss of her baby to SIDS)
Love Happens (someone in a support group mentions child loss)
Lovely Bones (lots of child loss)
Manchester By the Sea
Marley & Me (miscarriage)
Memory Keeper’s Daughter (book and Lifetime Movie) – (mourning of a child that was told had died – very emotional!)
Monster’s Ball
Mother and Child
My Sister’s Keeper (older child dies)
Mystic River
Ordinary People
Orphan (still birth)
Plain truth ( infant dies shortly after birth it’s unclear weather the infant was born still or murdered by the grandmother shortly after birth)
Private Practice (obvious reasons – and there are several episodes that deal with pregnancy, infant, and child loss)
Rabbit Hole (this entire movie is about the loss of a child)
Reign Over Me
Return to Zero
Revolutionary Road (self abortion – VERY distrubing)
Sliding Doors (miscarriage)
Steel Magnolias
Still Walking
Tangled (daughter is missing throughout movie)
The Best of Me (child death mentioned, not shown)
The Butterfly Effect (some disturbing scenes – unrated directors cut has VERY disturbing footage with a baby)
The Coat of Many Colors
The Curious Case of Benjamin Button (shows a baby die at the end)
The Day the Earth stood still -2008 (still birth)
The Disappearance of Eleanor Rigby
The First Born (Lifetime movie)
The Forgotten (miscarriage)
The Grace Card (child killed in accident)
The Help (book AND movie – miscarriage)
The Karate Kid (the new one 2010 – wife and 10 yr. old child die in a car accident)
The Mist (death of a child)
The Other Boleyn Girl (miscarriage)
The Other Woman (the whole movie is about the loss of a baby)
The Shack
The Son’s Room
The Sweet Hereafter
The Time Traveler’s Wife (miscarriage)
The Woman in Black
Then She Found Me (miscarriage and infertility)
This is 40 (some “in poor taste jokes”)
This is Us (The first episode deals with stillbirth)
Three Colors: Blue
Ultraviolet (forced abortion)
UP (variety of loss in this cartoon)
Welcome to the Rileys
Whale Rider
What Dreams May Come (the mother is depressed over the death of her young children)
What She Knew (Lifetime movie – premature birth/death-mother harming child DISTURBING)