My husband, Patrick, and I have always had a love of movies. We have spent a lot of date nights at the movie theater or just cuddled up on the sofa watching the latest release. Obviously, over this last year we have been a little preoccupied with our rainbow and we have only manged to make it to two movies (Madeline in tow). So, we have been catching up on what we’ve missed by making good use of Redbox.
In doing so, we have noticed something. There are a lot of movies that deal with losing a child.
There of course are the obvious ones, The Lovely Bones, Bridge to Terabithia, What Dreams May Come, Return to Zero, etc. Those are easy to avoid if you are feeling vulnerable. Ask me about the time I watched What Dreams May Come just a couple months after losing Joshua. Not a goood idea.
The problem is those movies where it sneaks up on you. Ever watch Up? I watch it and all I can do is sob thinking of poor Ellie and Carl. In fairness, Up is probably one of the saddest Disney movies I’ve ever seen anyway, but that scene in the hospital. My heart breaks for that poor animated couple.
Patrick does a good job of trying to “protect” me from watching movies where losing a child is part of the story line. He makes use of the parent’s guides to help make sure that there is nothing that will leave me crying and unable to watch the movie. However, we have noticed that this is getting trickier. It seems that the death of a child is not often mentioned in these parent guides. The last two movies we have watched were Interstellar and The Best of Me. Guess what? Both movies have parents dealing with the loss of a child.
So, this left me searching for a list a movies that deal with/mention loss to help from being completely sideswiped again. I found a list at: http://survivingmiscarriages.blogspot.com, but it hasn’t been updated in a while and I knew of several that I thought should be added. So I emailed her, and with her permission, I have included her original list and added many that I have found.
If you know of any others that should be added, please let me know.
Many of these are amazing movies, but they are a little less amazing when you aren’t expecting to hear about someone losing a baby and it hits you like a train. I’m hoping that this list can help those who are grieving protect their hearts a little bit more.
The Best of Me (child death mentioned, not shown)
Return to Zero
The Coat of Many Colors
Charlie St. Cloud
This is 40 (some “in poor taste jokes”)
Lovely Bones (lots of child loss)
The Time Traveler’s Wife (miscarriage)
Cider House Rules (the entire movie is about a doctor who performs abortions)
Revolutionary Road (self abortion – VERY distrubing)
Then She Found Me (miscarriage and infertility)
For Colored Girls (MANY difficult situations in this movie)
Love Happens (someone in a support group mentions child loss)
Rabbit Hole (this entire movie is about the loss of a child)
UP (variety of loss in this cartoon)
Julie & Julia (not mentioned but the emotion is there)
Orphan (still birth)
Marley & Me (miscarriage)
My Sister’s Keeper (older child dies)
The First Born (Lifetime movie)
Juno (she goes to an abortion clinic but does not follow through-gives baby up for adoption but the baby is the theme of the movie!)
Children of Men (miscarriage)
The Other Boleyn Girl (miscarriage)
The Forgotten (miscarriage)
Home Room (child dies after birth – not sure of reason)
Little House on the Prarie (Ma in the first season and Mary in another season)
What Dreams May Come (the mother is depressed over the death of her young children)
The Curious Case of Benjamin Button (shows a baby die at the end)
The Mist (death of a child)
Sliding Doors (miscarriage)
Bridge to Teribithia (death of a child)
House of Sand and Fog
Memory Keeper’s Daughter (book and Lifetime Movie) – (mourning of a child that was told had died – very emotional!)
Dirty Dancing (abortion)
Criminal Law (self abortion)
Ultraviolet (forced abortion)
Birthday Girl (still birth)
The Day the Earth stood still -2008 (still birth)
Letters to God (child dies of cancer)
What She Knew (Lifetime movie – premature birth/death-mother harming child DISTURBING)
Fullmetal Alchemist (anime series – infant loss as major theme from middle to end of series)
The Butterfly Effect (some disturbing scenes – unrated directors cut has VERY disturbing footage with a baby)
The Karate Kid (the new one 2010 – wife and 10 yr. old child die in a car accident)
Country Strong (baby loss as big theme in movie)
Tangled (daughter is missing throughout movie)
Mother and Child
Dear Zachery (documentary – very upsetting)
City of Angels
If these walls could talk (pretty much a glorification of abortion)
The Help (book AND movie – miscarriage)
Love and other impossible pursuits (whole movie is about a woman grieving the loss of her baby to SIDS)
The Grace Card (child killed in accident)
Grace – (stillbirth do not watch child comes back to “life” horror movie)
Dr quinn medicine woman – TV Show – (towards thé end of the series she has a unmentioned miscarriage)
Plain truth ( infant dies shortly after birth it’s unclear weather the infant was born still or murdered by the grandmother shortly after birth)
Amish grace (children killed by gun man in a one room school house)
The Other Woman (the whole movie is about the loss of a baby)
The Woman in Black