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Don’t Take My Word for It – Take Theirs

Often, grief is difficult to put into words. (Un)fortunately, others have walked this dark path before me, and they are quite frankly much better with words than I…

 

“There’s no tragedy in life like the death of a child. Things never get back to the way they were.”

President Dwight D. Eisenhower who lost a son, Doud Dwight “Icky” Eisenhower, at age 3 due to scarlet fever (September 24, 1917 – January 2, 1921).

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“It has been said time heals all wounds… I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind protecting it’s sanity covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens, but it’s never gone…”

Rose Kennedy who lost 1 son (Joe Kennedy 1915-1944) and 1 daughter (Kathleen Kennedy – 1920-1948) in plane crashes, quite famously had 2 sons (John F. Kennedy (1917-1963) and Bobby Kennedy (1925-1968) assassinated before her own death in 1995.

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“No one ever told me that grief felt so much like fear.”

“Her absence is like the sky, spread over everything.”

C.S. Lewis who lost his wife to cancer in 1960.

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“If a mother is mourning not for what she has lost but for what her dead child has lost, it is a comfort to believe that the child has not lost the end for which it was created.”

C.S. Lewis, Irish poet and author

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“Grief fills the room up of my absent child,
Lies in his bed, walks up and down with me,
Puts on his pretty look, repeats his words,
Remembers me of his gracious parts,
Stuffs out his vacant garments with his form.”

William Shakespeare who lost a a son, Hamnet, at age 11 (1585 – 1596).

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“The death of a baby is like a stone cast into the stillness of a quiet pool; the concentric ripples of despair sweep out in all directions, affecting many, many people.”

John DeFrain – American author and university professor – Author of: Stillborn: The Invisible Death

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“The reality is that we don’t forget, move on, and have closure, but rather we honor, we remember, and incorporate our deceased children and siblings into our lives in a new way. In fact, keeping memories of your loved one alive in your mind and heart is an important part of your healing journey.”

Harriet Schiff – author of The Bereaved Parent

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“Sorrow makes us all children again — destroys all differences of intellect. The wisest know nothing.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson who lost a son, Waldo, to scarlet fever at age 5 (1837 – 1942)

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“A man is not completely born until he be dead: Why then should we grieve that a new child is born among the immortals?”

Benjamin Franklin, American inventor, scientist and statesman who wrote The Death of Infants after watching the death of a friend’s baby.

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“When our children die, we drop them into the unknown, shuddering with fear. We know that they go out from us, and we stand, and pity, and wonder.”

Henry Ward Beecher, American clergyman and author

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“Sometimes the smallest things take up the most room in your heart.”

A.A. Milne, English author best known for authoring Winnie the Pooh

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“A person’s a person, no matter how small.”

Dr. Seuss (Theodor Seuss Geisel), American author and cartoonist

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“How very softly you tiptoed into our world, almost silently, only a moment you stayed. But what an imprint your footsteps have left upon our hearts.”

Dorothy Ferguson, Therapist and author of several books including Little Footprints: A Special Babies Memory Book

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“Where you used to be, there is a hole in the world, which I find myself constantly walking around in the daytime, and falling in at night. I miss you like hell.”

Edna St. Vincent Millay, American poet and playwright

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“I didn’t want to kiss you goodbye, that was the trouble; I wanted to kiss you goodnight. And there’s a lot of difference.”

Ernest Hemingway, American author

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“Some people say it is a shame. Others even imply that it would have been better if the baby had never been created. But the short time I had with my child is precious to me. It is painful to me, but I still wouldn’t wish it away.”

Christine O’Keeffe Lafser, Mother of 3 children on earth and 4 in heaven, Author of An Empty Cradle, a Full Heart: Reflections for Mothers and Fathers after Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Infant Death

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“What we have once enjoyed and deeply loved we can never lose, for all that we love deeply becomes a part of us.”

Helen Keller, American author and activist

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“A miscarriage is a natural and common event. All told, probably more women have lost a child from this world than haven’t. Most don’t mention it, and they go on from day to day as if it hadn’t happened, so people imagine a woman in this situation never really knew or loved what she had. But ask her sometime: how old would your child be now? And she’ll know.”

Barbara Kingsolver, American author and poet

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“There is, I am convinced, no picture that conveys in all its dreadfulness, a vision of sorrow, despairing, remediless, supreme. If I could paint such a picture, the canvas would show only a woman looking down at her empty arms.”

Charlotte Brontë, English author

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“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, suffered two miscarriages before having children. A psychiatrist and author of On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss

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“If love could have saved you, you would have lived forever.”

“I thought we’d have more time.”

“The amount of time on earth matters very little: a man can live in greed and pride 90 years and never find God, know Him or accomplish His plan. A stillborn baby, on the other hand, teaches people to love, brings people to the Lord, teaches us the tenuous nature of life and teaches us a faith that those who have not suffered loss can never know.”

“A life may last just for a moment, but memory can make that moment last forever.”

“Losing a child is like losing your soul. You may put on a front for the world but, inside, you are dying.”

“There is no footprint too small to leave an imprint on this world.”

Authors unknown

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